As most couples know, getting pregnant often takes more than one night of magic. The reasons for the long wait — on average 6 months of trying — can be many and complicated, but one known baby delayer is something we all face nearly every day: stress.
Now, a BabyCenter survey shows that parents-to-be are beginning to fight back against this fertility buster with a vacation dedicated to getting pregnant: a conceptionmoon.
How do conceptionmoons work?
Scientists aren’t exactly clear on why stress mucks up the works, but whatever the cause, the effects are pretty clear. Research, like a 2004 study published in the journal Fertility and Sterility, shows that women who regularly worry about things like work or money problems are significantly less likely to conceive than those who don’t.
Vacations are about relaxation, so it makes sense that some folks are now combining getting away from it all with something more purposeful. And as far as our survey is concerned, a conceptionmoon looks like a winner. Of the more than 1,000 BabyCenter members surveyed, 40 percent of those who took conceptionmoons conceived while on vacation.
Who’s taking the trip?
Those looking to relax, light a fire in their relationship, or make conception something special are packing their bags.
What to consider before you book
Take a good look at how you define relaxation — beach, city, mountains, whatever. You don’t have to go far or spend a lot of money. Just make sure the environment you choose is conducive to helping you unwind. Then get out the calendar and pick a date when you’re likely to be ovulating.
How to make the most of it
Bring whatever you need to pinpoint ovulation tests, a basal body temperature chart, and our list of baby-making sexual positions). If you have other kids, call a sitter and leave them at home if you can. (If Grandma has been bugging you for more grandkids, call her.)
Don’t bring your stress with you on the road. Head to a destination that’s off the grid or at the very least, leave the Blackberry, the email, the voicemail, and (if you can bring yourself to go without it) the cell phone behind.
Finally, relax. Catch up on sleep, lounge, eat good food, and enjoy each other — in and out of bed.
What to do if you can’t get away
Reduce stress with some exercise, yoga, meditation, or whatever allows you to take a deep breath (literally or not) and get some peace.
At the same time, make some moves to reconnect with your partner. Try a real dinner for two. If you can afford to, take a day off from work together. And if you know you’re ovulating and can arrange it, consider a night in a nearby hotel.
Fabulous facts from the conceptionmoon survey
1, 2, and 3 The ranking of Florida, Hawaii, and Las Vegas as top domestic conceptionmoon destinations. The Caribbean and Mexico topped the lists of people wanting to use their passport.
$1,700 The typical amount spent on the trip.
48 percent were stressed about trying to conceive.
8 months The typical time couples had been trying to conceive before going on their conceptionmoon.
68 percent of couples heading out of town have at least one child.
45 percent of conceptionmooners planned their departures around their ovulation schedule.
24 percent timed their baby-making break based on when they wanted their baby to be born.
51 percent said they shared the planning duties of their conceptionmoon with their partner.
77 percent of couples who took a conceptionmoon would recommend taking one to other couples trying to conceive.